I had gone for a trip where I did not know anyone….well I knew people by name and by face….but that’s about it….I asked my ‘friends’ if they want to come…and everyone had something else to ..so I was like what the hell…let me register for this camp…if I don’t feel like going I would cancel it latter…and I went for the camp..and boy I am so glad I went!!
Three very hectic fun days….Had a ball of a time….met so many new people…..clicked instantly with some …. Did not particularly like the sight of some….made superficial friends with lots…..
Now what is it that makes me click instantly with some people….I think it is the sense of humor….I love to laugh…have fun…be happy…and I think I click with people who have a good sense or let me say similar sense of humor as mine(what I think is good sense of humor…may be sad sense of humor for others)! And if someone with a decent sense of humor is logical and can also make interesting conversation..now that is like super cool!
And what is it that makes me hate people instantly….? I think I don’t like people who are too aggressive and always want to have their way…..now this is a very surprising and inappropriate reason for me not to like people..…now you may think come on….this is not an inappropriate answer…everybody does not like people who are too aggressive and always want to have their way…but it is and inappropriate reason for me not to like people….cause very often I have a tendency to be very aggressive and want to have my way!!
Someone once told me something very deep (which as usual I did not really understand when it was told initially)….that all the qualities we hate in others are things that we see in ourselves and don’t like….Now next time you hate someone…think of what is it that you hate about them and reflect and see if it is something that you internally hate about yourself …
Now this may not be true for all cases…and even if it is…it would be difficult to admit…that “I” am very similar to the people I think I hate…
But just think about it logically….
There are something’s you like about yourself..
When you meet people who ‘exhibit’ the qualities that you like about yourself….you click with them…and you say…hey wow we are so similar!
Similarly there are things you don’t like about yourself….
When you meet people who ‘exhibit’ the qualities that you don’t like about yourself…you hate them….and you rarely ever say…Hey..yuck…we are so similar!