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Tenacity

te·nac·i·ty
təˈnasədē/
noun

The quality or fact of being able to grip something firmly; grip.

Synonyms:persistence, determination, perseverance, doggedness, strength of purpose, tirelessness,indefatigability, resolution, resoluteness, resolve, firmness, patience, purposefulness,staunchness, steadfastness, staying power, endurance, stamina, stubbornness,intransigence, obstinacy, obduracy, pertinacity
Now why am I copy pasting this definition on my blog?
I believe ‘tenacity’ is a quality i need to build on in my life, I have a tendency to not give things my whole hearted effort which is something I would like to change
But why would I not give things eveything?
  • Maybe cause I want to keep a window open as an exuse for falliure, if I had given it my whole effort I would have suceeded.? But one would think that will lead to regrets but it surpisingly has not so far. When i was in college I would tell my Mom, I could come first in class if I wanted to but I just don’t, it is too much trouble and not worth the effort and I have no regrets on that.
  • Maybe cause I think it is too much trouble, it is easier to skim and then move to the next thing, there is so much to explore in the world
  • Maybe I have not found the thing that i want to get tenacious about..hmm I like this explanation best.

So why do I want to get more tenacious?

I think it will add to my life, currently  I am just drifting just going with the flow.

Gosh,  but is’nt going with the flow a good thing?

Hmm…Now I am confused, should I get more tenacious or not?

What do you think my dear readers…?

S

PS: I don’t think I have many readers left but lets see if i get some thoughs…:-) 🙂

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Make a Difference…

One day a man was walking along the beach when he noticed a figure in the distance. As he got closer he realized the figure was that of a boy picking something up and gently throwing it into the ocean.

Approaching the boy, he asked, “What are you doing?”

The youth replied, “Throwing starfish back in the ocean. The sun is up and the tide is going out. If I don’t throw them in, they will die.”

“Son,” the man said, “Don’t you realize there are miles and miles of beach and hundreds of starfish? You can’t possibly make a difference!”

After listening politely, the boy bent down, picked up another starfish, and threw it into the surf.

Then smiling at the man, he said,”I made a difference for that one!”      

This was a forward I got on e-mail and I really liked it…but instead of fwd it to everyone I thought I will put it on my blog so I wont loose it in a mail trail. Till Google Wave becomes a norm….i will have to use blogs like this to share interesting things and yet not loose them in the mail mass!

 Plan to use this story to inspire the college volunteers of my school teaching  program with Dharma Bharti Mission… Ya I know I have not yet written about this  new initiative of mine….I plan to do it soon!

Till then….keep reading and get inspired to make a difference…however small it may be!  And  Plz do write comments on my posts to inspire me! Will really appreciate it!

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Core Competency and Life Plan…..

Ever wondered what is it that you are really good at….or what is it that you really like to do? What is your core competency? Is your core competency and what you like to do constant or does it change with time and experience…?These are thoughts that play at least on my mind very often……and I don’t have the exact answers….

 

I think what you like to do by and large remains the same…but your core competency changes with your experiences…..

 

So what is it that I like to do…..??

 

Well I love meeting new people ….breaking the ice…connecting with people…learning new things….being the center of the action…..convincing/cajoling people to my way of thinking…..

 

So what would be the ideal job profiles for me….Sales…..Teaching ….Marketing….. Media…Politics!? Any more  idea’s anyone!?

 

Sales….I am currently doing that….and loving it…I have been with this company for almost 4 years…initially few years I would change projects/roles every 3-6 months….cause I would get so frustrated with what I was suppose to do…..and eveytime I would think now is the time to leave and move on…I would get a new role…which would interest me for sometime while it was new  and then I would be why on earth am I doing here wasting my time………been with the Sales team for a year and a half and I am loving every minute of it….and I think I am doing a good job out of it….( it would help if my boss thinks that too….i don’t know if he agrees or not…but I am sure he does not completely disagree! But I am happy with it…so that is what matters!)

 

 Now I think ‘Sales’ I am in the perfect role for me….but I think the industry is wrong….IT is not my core competency….I don’t understand it…I am not a techie….I currently sell ‘to’ the healthcare wellness industry…..ideally….I should be selling ‘for’ the healthcare and wellness industry….I guess that is what my next role would be..

 

While I am very happy with what I am currently doing….I think my next role that I would like to explore would be one of the following

1)      International Sales– Is selling to people of a different cultural any different from selling here….? Is it difficult to connect with them…..my experience with international rotractors has showed me it is pretty much the same..

2)      Selling for Wellness/Healthcare- Well…..I would love to have a corporate  marketing/operations  role in the likes of a Lakme Beauty Saloons equivalent….I dream to start my own unique wellness center when I am 40….so experience in a expanding chain would come handy….

 

So that is what I want to do in the next 10 years…..to achieve my dream for the subsequent 10!

 

 

Once I turn 50….I will turn to teaching…..all the gyan that I gain over the years on sales…marketing…setting up new business…I will use it to teach the youngsters….and I will make good money out of working part time…Training/Mentoring is something I am very passionate about…..and it is something that I am sure I will be  good at…but I just feel I don’t know enough of  anything to teach….I am climbing up the learning bell curve myself…..

 

Depending on how the next 20 years go….maybe I will get into politics….it is ironical of me to even say something like that at this stage…cause I hate politics and politicians….I know nothing about it…and don’t even care to vote…..but what do politicians do is sell a dream…..he they were honest and no corrupt….it would be quite an interesting job to do!

 

Well Well…this has become a looong post…..the initial objective was to identify my core competency…..but as all posts…this took its own course…and an interesting one I think!

 

 In the next 20 years along with achieving all these things…..I want to get married (hope to find someone I can grow with….and someone I who I can help to grow and achieve our dreams together!)….and have two babies (siblings are a must!)…that is also all a part of my agenda!!

 

If WordPress exists 20 years from now….and I chance upon this post……I will think back on this day….and smile….I hope I feel I have achieved what I set out to do…..Inshalla!

 

In the meanwhile….any help …idea’s…connections….views….comments I get are welcome!! J

 

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Feeling Blue….

Just one of those days when you feel kind of sad and lonely…….you may  have lot of friends…..but don’t really feel like talking to anyone….and cause you don’t  really feel like talking to anyone so feel even more lonely……vicious cycle indeed…..

I don’t know if this has happens to other people……but it happens to me quite a few times ..….I feel like talking to someone…..I feel like I want to be around people and have a meaningful conversation…..and just be myself……but I look at the phone book in my cell phone and there is not a single person I feel like talking to…..:-( and then I think to myself…..what is with me….why is it that I feel this void when I have such wonderful people around…the perfect job… ..the perfect life!!

Its like water water all around and not a drop to drink….:-(

Well life is not bad actually…..and I have no right to feel blue…..again I don’t know if anyone else feels this….very often I feel that I don’t have the ‘right’ to feel ‘sad’…..cause my life is so perfect compared to all those other people  out there who don’t have families…may not have food….may be staying in war torn regions….may be ill…..you know what I mean…..like what am I cribbing or feeling sad about….I don’t have anyone I feel like talking to…come on…that is not even a valid reason!!

So I get up….and DECIDE….I don’t want to feel ‘blue’ any more…..smile…..and start feeling happy again!!

Try it….act happy….and you  start to feel happy……it does get a little tiring to act happy at times….but it is less tiring than being sad!!

Cheers!!

S

PS : Btw….one more very well kept secret…  which works when you are feeling sad……Go to the bathroom…lock the door and …Cry….it helps!! J

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Writing Toast Master Speeches!!

For anyone who has been a part of the toastmaster club would know what I mean when I say it is such a pain to think of a topic and write a speech…….the last speech I gave was on this blog of mine…..it was something that I wrote on the last minute and it was quite a disaster…..it was a disaster…cause it was booring…..I was bored speaking….so I am sure my listeners were bored listening…well it was not so bad…..you can read it on this link!  Reflections of a Restless Princess.

Anyways.,..that was way back in October…so that was when I gave my last speech….and I have avoided giving a prepared speech post that with a new excuse to evey time…and now the next meeting is this week…unless I can come up with a brand new excuse….I will have to give a speech!

I have a topic in mind…. “ Just Ask” ….but now I have to make a 5-7 minute story around these two words….now that should not be very difficult……but lets see if I manage to get something!

I am going to use this space as a scratch pad….and try and get my thinking in order….blogging always helps me to get my thoughts in place….and any feedback/idea’s from anyone reading this scratch pad would be most welcome!!

So what is “Just Ask” …..this is something that I read in this really nice book called  “The Last Lecture” by Randy Pauch ( A book review on this book is pending on my blog) and is has stuck with me among other things….

The basic funda is…if you want something  “Just Ask” chances are you will get it….

Simple is’nt it!

My extended logic is that even if you don’t get it….at least you know you have tried!!

Simple example…..we were going for an office toastmasters picnic today…..I and a couple of people who stay in the same area were suppose to be the first ones to board the bus…..

Starting point:  “Office”..now office is close to home……but it is about a 20-30 minute drive….(yeah Bombay that is considered very close) I asked my) colleagues who were boarding the bus with me….let us try and get the starting point changed to something more convenient….they were a little hesitant…who will talk to the organizers…..the rule (WTH…rules are meant to be broken!) is we will start from the office premise….etc etc….I though of the “Just ask” principle and picked the phone and called our club president….and told him… Boss..can we start from location X instead of office…and he was like sure….just give me the address!! It was as simple as that…..all it required was me to pick the phone and ask….the six other people who also would have preferred the bus start from location X instead of office….did not want to risk  asking for it…

I was discussing this principle of “Just Ask” with people at work….and told them this story of the bus pick up spot…..they gave a “Gender Angle”….if it was a guy who had asked for a change it would not have been so easy….you girls have it easy….WTH!! I most defiantly don’t agree….I think it is more the ‘way’ of asking rather than ‘the gender’ of the person who is asking……Now girls are in general sweeter and would maybe smile and ask…..this may give them an advantage…but guys can smile and be sweet  and nice too….that is not impossible! (Or is it boys!?)

 I agree  to a certain extent…‘who’ is also important….but only to determine if  I like the person or not….gender  may not have a role to play……but I have an all boys team at work….and I was out numbered and I backed off and said whatever!!

Now gender aside….why is it that people avoid asking…? What keeps us back from asking for something that we think we want….?  I think It is the fear of rejection…..we are afraid that we will not get what we want even if we ask……Yes chances are that we may not get what we want even if we muster the courage to ask…..but if you don’t ask…..you will most definitely not get it!!….

Well you may just….if someone can read you mind….or someone else is the group “asks” like I did in the bus pick up spot story!!

So logically we should ask….although there are chances of rejection of our humble request….but if we don’t ask….odds that we don’t get what we want are much higher….

I am sure although everyone already knew this somewhere  at the bottom of your heart….and I have reinforced the point…so it is up in your top memory recall…..We would STILL be hesitant to “ask” for ….even though “logically” we should….this is because… “EGO” comes into the way…and when “EGO” walks into the picture…”LOGIC” normally walks out….

If we ask for something we want…and we don’t get it….we are “hurt” …. “feel insulted”… “get upset”….“get angry”…  “withdraw”……It basically hurts our ‘ego’ and our self image….“I asked for this….how could he/she not give it to me….” Whereas if you don’t ask….you at least your ‘Ego’ have a way out…. “ If I asked…I would have got it…anyways this is not important…it does not really matter” etc etc

When it comes to matters of the heart….this situation gets even more tricky…. “To ask or not to ask”……If you ask someone out…and the answer is not favorable…..then things are a mess….you start avoiding the person..or the person starts avoiding you…erstwhile normal conversations become uncomfortable….etc etc etc

If you don’t ‘ask’…you’ll never know…..you may live with that regret all your life….I should have just asked…..or you may reconcile to ‘fate’ and say…it was not meant to be…We Indians have this tendency to blame “fate” for our actions or lack of actions…and we shift responsibility to this external entity….

I have had my share of being on all sides of the fence….I have asked…not asked…blamed fate….regretted asking….regretted not asking…..I have been there done that….but I still don’t know what to do….and I don’t think I ever will!!

But Bottom Line…..If you want something….” JUST ASK” 

 Let LOGIC rule and EGO take a back seat…..!!

 

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Slum Dog Millionaire!

There is so much about the movie all over…on TV in the papers on Radio….so I am not going to write another review of the movie…

All I will say is go watch it….. I was a little skeptical to watch the movie cause I heard that it portrays Mumbai is very bad light and since  I love Mumbai …it is unlikely that I will like any movie that shows Mumbai in a bad light…..but it is not too bad…and although the movie portrays the beggars/ragpickers/dumping grounds/the slums…basically the filth of Mumbai….it is not about that….it is about Jamal…who is a slum dog….( they are literally treated like dogs…it is sad….) his life and his experiences and his destiny…

The catch line of the movie is ….“Destiny : Its written…!”

I don’t know if I believe in Destiny….actually I think I do…..but I also believe in that we have the freedom to choose……and if we listen to our heart and listen to the signs our guardian angels give us (ya I also believe in guardian angels…will write about  how to understand the signs they give us someday!)…we will take the right decisions…( I don’t know what the meaning of RIGHT is though!)

 

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